Waiting for the ball to drop

Why is it that when things are just getting good, our instinct is to pull away? Like when you’re talking with someone you really like, and things are going well, but at some point, you or the other person, or sometimes (most of the time) both parties play hard to get — texts opened and read for hours even though you definitely wanted to respond to that message the second you got it (“Yo bro who’s got you smiling like that?”), being wishy-washy about when you’re going to meet up next, not matching your level of excitement in your messages with how excited you actually are.

This could honestly apply to romantic relationships, new friendships, or maybe even professional connections. Sometimes, genuine human connection feels too good to be true. Talking about that one specific detail from a movie you love, and someone else GETS IT. Meeting up with someone, and the conversation is FLOWING — no awkward pauses or anything. Just the two of you freaking out because you’re just out here reading each other’s minds. Joining a team of writers who are also a little too obsessed with the Oxford comma. It’s moments like these that fill us with so much joy and make us grateful to be where we are right now.

Sometimes, genuine human connection feels too good to be true.

We lack trust because we’ve been let down in life before. This isn’t our first rodeo. Dealing with the rejection seems way worse than showing our true emotions.

From a young age, we’ve had an expectation for disappointment engrained in us — “Don’t get your hopes up” or “Don’t hold your breath” were said to prevent the shock factor that often comes with life not going our way. Even when things are going great and everyone seems to be on the same page, our instinct is to be nervous. How can life be this good? Something’s gotta give.

What if we lived our lives without fear of rejection? What would that look like? Life has ups and downs, and while the lows in life don’t feel great, they open doors for other opportunities, ones we couldn’t have imagined. Not getting an interview with a role you were interested in may lead you to work at a place that is even better than what you initially thought you wanted to be a part of.

Living in the present moment and simply being with what is and not what should be will lead to a fulfilling life with whatever does or does not happen. Enjoy those joyful moments in life because things do change, whether good or bad. One moment becomes the next moment, each bringing a new opportunity.

We often pull away from the present when we feel the high of a good moment coming to a close — the last set of the music festival (Where’s the rest of my group? How am I going to get out of the parking lot?), the final day of summer vacation (I don’t want to go to back to reality on Monday), or your last day visiting your long distance bestie (all ya’ll can talk about is how you don’t want to leave).

To live without fear of rejection or the future is to live the most alive. It is to have full confidence in who you are and confidence in the fact that everything on this earth is temporary — the most memorable moments will end, people and places in your life will change, but you have made it this far. There are things you have now that you did not have this time last year that you had been hoping for.

Whatever that thing(s) is/are for you, why could that not happen again? Every move you make this year is leading you to that new city, that amazing friend group, the job you didn’t know you needed. Enjoy the joyous moments, the neutral ones, and take a breath during those challenging ones.

If you’re having difficulty remaining in the present moment, try noting in your head what you see, hear, or smell. You’ve got some incredible opportunities ahead of you. Go get ’em, tiger.

Here’s some recent Headspace episodes that had some great tips on staying present and enjoying the moment:

Existential crises with a side of FOMO

It’s been a little over a year since I moved to Austin and wow almost a year since my last post on here. It’s been an educational year to say the least. Living by yourself, no roommates, you have a lot of time to think. Thinking itself is not a bad thing, but having a lot of time to myself has definitely led me to internalize and build scenarios in my head that haven’t even happened.

It’s weird being 1,000 miles away from family and friends and starting over. I constantly miss Florida and and just like wow I’m in a different freaking state.

No one talks about the existential crisises that hit when you leave college. I started this great book that my mom got for me, The Defining Decade, by a clinical psychologist that highlights the fears that twentysomethings often face and how this decade is often glamorized in movies (it also provides some great tips on how to make the most of this crucial time). You wonder if you’ll be living in the same place in the next few years, will I be stuck here, did I make the the right choice, and you miss the safety net that college provided you with. By your senior year you want to be out, not working on a bunch of different projects for different classes, and you want to strictly focus on your desired field of work. Then you graduate, and yes, everything does feel new and exciting. As time goes on, reality starts to set in. This is it.

Watching this for the first time as a nine year old, this went over my head. The intro to this movie is so real. Prior to this portion, the guide talks about “working your whole life to get to the point where you can work for your whole life.”

I felt so excited to finally have my dream of living in the city and having writing as a career. I loved seeing my pieces published, wearing my cute professional outfits, and having downtown Austin close by. In between all the glitz and glam of trying to be cute writer girl in the city, I cried probably every other night during my first few months here (I still do, but a little less now).  

Don’t get me wrong, I am so thankful I get to take on my passion of writing as a career, but always having friends at the drop of a hat during college was something special. I really do cherish any time I get to spend with friends and family more than ever. A full time job makes up 40 or more hours of your week. For me, I go to the gym right after work, then sometimes grocery store, then dinner, sometimes laundry. Then I have a couple hours to squeeze in an episode of Friends (guilty of watching the same shows over and over) and finish out the night with some reading to wind down.

I felt like a robot. Work, gym, 2 hours to tv or read sleep, repeat. I missed college and craved the fun and freedom that time brought (still do). After a lot of sad girl hours I realized ‘yes, this is it, but that’s okay.’ I felt stupid about being excited for little things like going to the grocery store, but it can be fun and exciting putting together your own meals and cooking whatever you want. A thankful heart is a happy heart, the more you see the small things and romanticize them, the more positive your outlook will be on life.

Recent graduate time can feel like a race against time, and you wonder if your timeline is “correct”. You always hear about this happening and now it’s here: everyone is getting engaged, married, promoted, buying houses, having kids, etc. “FOMO” or “fear of missing out” takes over too as you see people hanging out together in your college town or see people traveling to cool places or going to an event you wanted to attend. Everyone is living different places, with different goals and different opportunities at hand and that’s okay. This does not makes your triumphs and accomplishments any less significant. Someone is probably seeing your social media posts and thinking wow they’re working for that company or maybe they hate their job and wish they were able to follow their passion.

Social media really puts everyone’s news and information in your face at all times. Social media is a valuable tool for businesses and it can serve to connect people regardless of distance, but is the driver of depression and you feel too stuck to get out of the passenger seat. Social media has allowed me to see fun photos from friends and family while I’m 1,000 miles away, but it more often leaves me feeling worse than before I opened the app. We mindlessly scroll to put things off, because we don’t want to think or feel our emotions. We hurt our own feelings all the time, over and over again. Using social media intentionally and focusing on content that brings you joy makes it a more positive experience. Trying to cut down on time and find another more mindful activity like reading, walking, or meditating (I am a big fan of the Headspace app, but there are plenty of other great mindfulness/meditation focused apps as well) helps you sleep better at night and not see the world as all doom and gloom and bad news. It’s important to be informed, but you only have so many hours in a day, and you cannot solve all the world’s problems on your own.

Anyone who knows me knows I’m a huge gym rat. I go to the gym 5-6 times a week. It has helped me equally if not more with my mental health as my physical health. At the end of a day at work my eyes and brain are tired. Going to the gym lets me feel fully present. I am so guilty of “stresslaxing” or doing what should be a relaxing, fun activity and feeling the need to work or do something “productive” at the same time. I am trying to be better and be fully present, as it leaves you feeling better knowing you fully experienced something rather than half paid attention and convinced yourself you had more important things to do. You remember and cherish the experience, not the task you convinced yourself needed to be done then and there. The gym kind of gives me no choice but to lift. My laptop isn’t there, the dishes are not in the sink, no dust to be dusted, just me my music and the weights. I am really trying to carry this fully present self I am in the gym to all aspects of my life, I know I will get there.

I see a lot of Instagram posts about the power of saying “no.” That one word is incredibly important in setting boundaries, especially as adults with full time jobs. There is power in saying no, but there is also great power in saying yes. I recently came across a podcast on Spotify that discussed the psychology of Improv Comedy and the principle of “yes…and.” I remembered this principle from my junior high and high school drama days. At one point the speakers discuss how the “yes…and” principle could be applied to every day life. By saying “yes” and taking in new ideas and not immediately shutting people and ideas out, we serve as excellent listeners and more empathetic people.

I want to end out this blog with a verse I wrote on my whiteboard and have needed especially during this period of my life.

Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own

Matthew 6:34 NIV

We have set day hours for a reason. We have endless possibilities within that time, but we cannot do it all. Show yourself the same compassion and kindness you show your friends and family. We are expected to be so many places these days, especially with phones and social media. Speak to yourself kindly, and don’t get too far ahead of yourself. You are doing fine.

westbound and down

My Snapchat and Instagram followers are already well aware that I made the move to Austin, TX. Cybersecurity is a very new, unfamiliar realm for me, but I am so excited to educate myself more on this rapidly growing field through my position as Content Writer.

My parents would always tell me that when attending an interview with an organization, I am interviewing them as much as they are interviewing me. I did not fully understand what this meant until I interviewed with Ntirety. I was having a conversation and going back and forth asking questions and receiving answers. I felt I had a lot of power in that interview to find out what that company valued as much as the company had the power to figure out what qualities I could bring to the team.

I got endless amounts of company swag-this beanie is by far my favorite though.

One of the questions I asked every place I interviewed with was “What do you like most about working for *insert company*?” and “What do you like most about your position?” Everyone always had an answer, but not everyone had the enthusiasm and excitement in their voices like the individuals I spoke with at Ntirety did. They were excited to share their experiences with the company. They were genuinely interested in my accomplishments, and I could tell they actually took the time to thoroughly look at my work history. I felt comfortable talking to these individuals and truly felt like I could be myself.

A few tips I would give to people currently searching for a job:

  1. LinkedIn is in my opinion the best jobsite (I know it’s technically considered social media). Obviously I love writing and words, but I think LinkedIn has a lot more colors and pictures than most jobsites which helps keep my focus a little more when applying to a bunch of places. LinkedIn Easy Apply is a life saver; I do not think I could have applied to as many places as I did without it.
  2. Make a point of letting the company know you are very interested in them (if you feel it is a good fit for you of course). If the first interview is done and you really enjoyed the company and you feel that the conversation went well, say something at the end! Thank them for their time and let them know that this company really stood out to you.
  3. Read up on the company and people you will be interviewing with so you can better prepare for the questions at the end (when they ask if you have questions-ALWAYS ask questions-it shows the company you are interested and are taking the time to research the company and are genuinely interested in making an impact.

I was super excited to start my job as a writer in the city but also nervous about being the new girl (and likely the youngest person) in the office. Day 1 was mostly orientation/getting things set up. I met everyone in my department. I sat at my desk working on stuff and people came over to me and introduced themselves and asked about me. Throughout the week I met the rest of the office. Everyone made me feel so welcome and at home in this new space. I did not pay for my lunch once. The company bought some lunches and two individuals in the office bought my lunch on two of the days. When on a call with people from different office branches across the states, someone asked me if I was the new Content Writer. I felt valued as a person from day 1, and I loved that people approached me and were genuinely interested in me.

I was asked for my feedback on published pieces and got the chance to do some proofreading. The head of my department appreciated what I had to say and told me the suggestions I made were helpful. I have written about this before, but I struggle a lot with Imposter Syndrome: feeling like you just happened to be in the right place at the right time to get where you are, not based on all the hard work you have done. Being in the right place at the right time is definitely part of getting to where you are in the working field, but your work ethic and portfolio pieces make up a huge portion of why you are where you are. Hearing that my feedback was appreciated and seeing that all that I had trained and worked for throughout college and my internships was paying off was the best feeling. I know it’s only week 1, but I genuinely love going to my job and the people I work with. Excited to start on my first writing assignments next week. 🙂

Everything you need to know about database marketing

What is Database Marketing and Why is it important?

Database Marketing may sound like an intimidating term at first, but it can simply be defined as using input from current and potential customers to create a personalized experience to promote a product or service online. A database is information stored within a computer. An example of a database would be a company storing information about its employees, products, or financial documentation. Within each section of information there will be relevant information specific to each section. 

Databases are important when it comes to marketing because they help companies gain insight into the interests of specific demographics. Database marketing catches the potential customer’s interest through individualized content.

Benefits of utilizing database marketing 

Database marketing has many benefits, including a personalized experience for each individual potential customer. Personalized data catches the viewer’s eye over a more generalized message. When a potential customer sees information they relate to, they are more likely to give it a second glance over content that is less specific. The more specific the message is, the more time the customer will spend on the website. The more time spent on the website the more likely the customer will invest in the product or service.

Database marketing helpful resources

There are a variety of ways you can create a personalized message for your potential customers. Some examples of database marketing resources include online advertisements, telemarketing, emails, text messages, or postal mail. 

For online advertising,“cookies” on websites track where each user clicks and what they end up purchasing if anything. This information can then be used to promote similar content through advertising or pop ups on the website. 

Telemarketing is when customers are contacted through phone call. Phone call messages typically need to be quick and to the point due to the ease of hanging up the phone. 

If a customer is signed up for a company’s email list or purchased something through their website, they may receive emails with products specifically chosen for them based on past searches and purchases. Email sign-ups are often incentivized through discounts on a customer’s next purchase for signing up.

Text messages, similar to emails, are signed up for often with an incentive such as a coupon off the customer’s first purchase. Free trials are another database marketing strategy that encourages customer loyalty through a free incentive that lets the customer test out the product or service and realize the value in it.

Postal mail is a more rare form of database marketing with the current digital age, but it has the potential to stand out against other advertisements. Mail that includes the customer’s name, a coupon, or a token of appreciation for company loyalty such as samples of a product are more likely to not be tossed to the recycling bin over a generalized message promoting a company.

How to reach your audience and build a following  

Individualized experience is a key component of database marketing. In order to target your audience, you must pay attention to key demographic components such as age, gender, or race. A 40 year-old mother is going to have different interests than a single 30 year-old man. 

Next, pay attention to items the customer spends the most time looking at or recent purchases made. If a customer recently purchased a navy blazer, sending an email or including a pop-up on a website with the matching pants can draw in more business. 

Social media is a quick, easy way to publish a message, spread the word, and gain a following through the sharing of a post. Social media captions are typically composed of either a short phrase or a sentence or two to quickly send out a message and quickly gain a snippet of what a company values. 

Webinars are another example of resources that are helpful in gaining a company following because they add a human voice through a clutter of online words. Webinars are typically live speaker events that allow potential customers to put faces to a company and potentially ask questions.

In conclusion…

Database marketing helps draw in a loyal customer base while recruiting new ones by creating a unique experience for each individual. A customer is more likely to remain loyal to a company that caters to their wants and makes them feel heard. With the digital tracking technology available, it is easier than ever to create an individualized experience for your customer base.

Thank you for your interest in…

It’s the beginning of March. You see graduation on the horizon, but it is not quite in your grasp. You log into the LinkedIn account you made as a freshman in college but have not touched since. You find the perfect headshot, line up your experience from the past four years, and add any visual elements that will set you apart from the thousands of other circle heads on the site.

You send in your first job application. You don’t have a lot of expectations, you just feel a sense of accomplishment having gotten the ball rolling. You continue to apply to 10 more, 20 more, 30 more, soon stretching over 100 come May.

You’ve had several interviews. Some jobs are just not the right amount of hours or compensation required for your services, so you have to politely decline. And then there’s the worst of all, when you get to almost the last step of the interview process in a dream job with the right pay and benefits and they went with someone else instead.

Graduation comes and you are excited and nervous for what the future holds. A lot of your friends already have jobs lined up. You want so badly to hold onto your college town and to move where everyone seems to be moving, but instead you’re sitting in a hometown coffee joint scrambling so you’re not stuck jobless. FOMO is more real than ever.

It is exhausting applying to 10 different jobs a day just to get that “thank you for your interest in…” email. It is hard seeing the hundreds of writing samples just be shut down without chance to speak on them. It is hard to see all the time, money, and effort come to a halt. It is hard going to family gatherings only to tell them you are still unemployed.

In a time where information is more accessible it is difficult to hide where we are and what we are doing. We want to be able to post on Instagram that we are happy and pursuing our passion. We want to make Tik Toks about a “day in the life” at our amazing job.

We set the bar so high and the reality is our first job may have to be taking freelance pieces from companies when needed just to start making some money and gaining this “5+ years of experience…” that most companies want so bad.

I’m a huge believer in everything happens for a reason. I don’t love that I am living at home right now. I don’t like that I am not in an office or working from home writing pieces on Database Marketing, profiles on my fellow coworkers for the company website, or a feature on how my client has changed the lives of many.

We set the bar so high and feel like if we don’t check off all the boxes in a certain amount of time we failed. We wonder what we could have done differently and what is wrong with us. Maybe you’ll find a job you end up loving in a place you would not have expected. Maybe you’ll make friends you become close with, maybe even closer with than your college buddies.

We want to cling on to what is familiar. Think about your freshman year-you probably did not know anyone. It was a blank slate. You missed your high school friends and wondered how could you completely start over become comfortable being your goofiest most authentic self with a new group of people. I made lifelong friends through my college experience and became involved in organizations and positions I could not have imagined myself in. As much as I wanted to haver these lifelong friends and add more lines to my resume my first semester, I would not have changed a thing.

“Once you stop to listen and look within, you will realize how absolutely powerful, wise and resilient you have actually become.”

Miyoko Schinner

Freshman Abby would be proud of who I am today and all that I have accomplished. I am more outgoing and comfortable speaking in front of people. I look at my writing pieces from my freshman year and they are almost unrecognizable from my most recent pieces.

There is always going to be someone who is more qualified. Getting turned down from somewhere could be a blessing in disguise. Focus on your journey and your success-companies get hundreds of applications for one position and read through so much content. You likely are qualified, you have all that is required, it truly is connections and time and place.

Forbes posted a quote on Instagram today by Miyoko Schninner, Founder of Miyoko’s Creamery. “Once you stop to listen and look within, you will realize how absolutely powerful, wise and resilient you have actually become.”

You did not come this far to turn in the towel. You are that much closer to success.

My Favorite Dairy Free Alternatives <3

Fun fact: no one likes dairy as much as lactose intolerant people. Like what’s it like to eat a penny sized bite of ice cream without immediately feeling it in your stomach? Because can’t relate. Whether you’re lactose intolerant like me, are little upset with the dairy industry right now (also me-see Animal Recovery Mission’s Instagram for why), or are trying to cut it out for whatever reason, it can be hard to find foods that do not contain any dairy. Some dairy free foods taste different or may not be as good. You probably are not looking in the right places if this is the case. I put together a list of some of my favorite dairy-free alternatives I have around my house 🙂 (I have also found I have less break outs when I cut out the dairy–there has been some research done to prove there is some correlation–https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6115795/

https://www.aad.org/media/news-releases/growing-evidence-suggests-possible-link-between-diet-and-acne

ANYWAYS on to the list!

  1. Mac n Cheese bb–Ok ya’ll probably saw this one coming. It is a classic and my all time favorite. It literally has cheese in the word so it obviously contains dairy. Annie’s sells this great vegan cheddar Mac and it is delicious. It does have a slightly different taste from normal Mac n Cheese, but it still has a sharp cheddar taste so 10/10. They also sell a creamy pumpkin and sweet potato shells, but it tastes nothing like Mac n cheese. Still great pasta, but nowhere near what I was expecting.IMG_3177
  2. Yogurt. I am a big greek yogurt fan. If you want something with a similar consistency try almond milk yogurt. If you want a slightly sweeter yogurt coconut milk yogurt is a great option. The best part about both of these? They won’t expire as quickly as your regular yogurt would. I love Kite Hill’s almond milk yogurt and So Delicious’s coconut milk yogurt. So Delicious makes a lot of great dairy free products as well another of which I will get to later in the list. IMG_3185.jpg
  3. Milk–it’s used in your coffee, cereal, and countless recipes it seems like this one is pretty hard to escape. The cool thing about plant based milk is that there are so many different options so you can change it up if you want. I switch between almond, soy, and oat. I typically get either soy or coconut milk in my morning coffee if I don’t drink it black. At school (@ FSC peeps) the Moc Mart sells soy and almond milk-the almond milk always seems to go fast though, so I typically buy soy. I know most of you have heard of these alternative milks because they are becoming more popular, especially oat milk in cute lil coffee shops (10/10 would recommend oat milk in coffee).IMG_3186
  4. Protein packed snack–Lenny and Larry’s The Complete Cookie comes in many flavors including snickerdoodle (one of my favs pictured below), birthday cake, chocolate chip, and more. It is vegan and each one contains 16 grams of protein!! I usually pack one for my after the gym snack. They definitely taste a little different (a lot healthier) than a ‘normal’ cookie, but still good nonetheless. IMG_3181
  5. And now for dessert-ice creammmm–a classic. Man I don’t know about my other lactose intolerant friends out there, but this one always hits me the worst oof. But you’re in luck because there are some delicious dairy free ice cream options that are in my opinion equivalent to ‘regular’ ice cream taste. So Delicious sells delicious coconut milk ice creams! Halo Top has some great dairy free flavors as well. IMG_3182

There are plenty of other great dairy-free alternatives I could go through, but I’ll leave you with these for now:) I hope this helped anyone who wants to try more dairy free options or is interested at all. I might do a part 2 of this later on. Anyways goodnight babes and thanks for reading my post I know it’s been a minute.

you know what happens when you assume

It’s been a little bit since I’ve written on here. Sometimes I get little bits and pieces of an idea and I’ll put it in the notes on my phone and not get back to it for a while. I hope this message can help you and your friends find the good in everyone. And I don’t mean that as everyone is a good person, but I mean finding what everyone has to offer the world.

That girl who sits two seats in front of you in a class. She’s super quiet, comes in late a lot, and is terrified of presentation days because she hates speaking in front of people. You’re thinking “this girl is stupid” “why is she always late?” “Why doesn’t she speak up more?”

What you didn’t know is that her mother recently passed away and her grandmother is in the hospital with cancer. On top of that all her professors dislike her because  she’s late all the time. You didn’t know she was bawling her eyes out about 5 minutes before coming to class just trying to hold it together, just wanting to pass thus class.

This is obviously an extreme scenario, but you get the point. You never know what people are going through. This is why it is so important to show kindness and mercy to others no matter what.

Most people would either ignore that girl or speak down to her because they are associating her silence with stupidity.

Let’s get something straight: talking down to someone does not put you above them. It shows that you value the two seconds of an ego booster you receive when you feel like you are “better than” someone else.

Rather than proving our own worth to others, let’s show others how much they are worth.

Some of the best people are the ones who lift others up and show them how great they are. People who put others down, belittle them, and try too hard to “flex” on people are self centered. I’m not saying I am not guilty of doing this. I think we can all admit we do this.

Be helpful instead of harmful. Instead of constantly bringing people down, tell them what they are doing right. We all need to be put in our place sometimes, but it does not help to constantly discourage people. Be part of the solution, not the problem.

I’m going to refer to the Golden Rule: “Treat Others the Way You Want to be Treated.”

God created each and every one of us in his own image. We all have something to offer. Make others see their full potential. What good does it do to speak ill about someone for two seconds of an ego booster versus the endless amount of joy you feel when helping and loving others?

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Comfort in the Chaos

Getting back in the swing of things has been a little crazy and very busy, but I am so happy to be back at school with friends. I thought this week about how lucky I am to be busy doing what I love. For example, this week was my first week being Features editor. I was a little overwhelmed at first at the thought of writing 3 articles within 3 days and laying out all them in indesign (oh indesign) I felt so accomplished getting it done.

I really enjoyed writing the articles. I have always loved writing, I think I enjoy journalistic writing so much because it is like putting a puzzle together (don’t get me wrong I love creative/blog writing-obviously). It’s an extra challenge to have to format things a certain way and convey the message/tell the story in a unique way. I only have 2 more general education courses I need to complete and I will be done. This semester is awesome so far because all my classes are within my major (except Spanish for my BA degree, but I don’t mind it)! I know I say this A LOT, but I am so excited about what I am doing. Like how cool is it that I get to do what I love in college. Bottom line, in the chaos of everything, think about how nice it is to be busy and have the opportunities you have. It’s easy to think about all the stress associated with being busy but take a moment and step back. Think about all your hard work-like YOU did that!! I hope you all have an amazing rest of your week.

-Ab

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#nofilter

In previous years, even months, I have really struggled with dealing with people disliking me and I don’t mean that a lot of people don’t like me, I mean that I am terrified of saying one wrong thing and someone is gone. I feel like most people low-key have this fear though. Over the past semester and even in the past week I can honestly say I’ve gained a lot more confidence in who I am and what I believe.

Like I just remember stupid that I would debate over like I would just stare at a text for 5 minutes deciding if it was okay to send. Not because it was risqué or anything like that, but other concerns like will they think it’s funny? I hope he/she doesn’t get mad at me, etc. Half the time I was making a mountain out of a molehill. But mostly, what I wanted to say in that moment was what I truly felt and I held that stuff back in fear of people leaving. (Not to say that I’m just going to be spewing nonsense).What I’ve become more aware of lately is that those people who don’t allow you to voice your opinions without judgement are the ones whose opinion you really didn’t need in the first place.

I have been better about “saying it how it is” and voicing how I feel, and it is so freeing. There will always be people who dislike you, so why not be yourself? There was this shirt I had in middle school that said: “be yourself, everyone else is already taken”. Cheesy quote but very true. We are all so different, so go out and embrace those differences.

Have C O N F I D E N C E!!

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You’re a star♥♥♥

thank u, next

I am now in my sophomore year of college and let me tell you wow what a semester. I am now a member and Publications Chair for Alpha Chi Omega sorority, the designated column writer for the Student Spotlight under the Features section in my school’s newspaper, and next semester will be the Features editor. I say all this because of my last blog post where I reflected on some of the challenges I faced last year. I am so beyond grateful that I have had these opportunities to do what I love-writing.

Recently, even with all these happy times, there has been some sadness in between. Just this week, something came up that made me think of the past, and I wished things were different and that I could change it. The fact is, you can’t change the past (obviously). To quote the Lion King, specifically Rafiki, “The past can hurt. But the way I see it you can either run from it or learn from it.”

It still hurts a little and yes, I still think about it, but I hope that writing this will help me move on from it. I have lost some people which is never fun, but I have formed so many important, genuine relationships since being at college and I am so thankful for those who have stuck by my side.

Sometimes growing up can mean growing apart from people. You are going to change and have new experiences which make you the person you are today. You are not obligated to stay the same for anyone.

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